(And Why a Custom Photoshoot is the Secret Weapon You Didn’t Know You Needed)

If you’re putting yourself out there in the world of online dating, first—congrats for taking this crucial step! Whether you’re new to the scene or giving it another shot, your profile photos play a big role in making that all-important first impression.

As a professional photographer based in San Antonio, Texas, I work with clients on everything from polished headshots to lifestyle branding—and yes, that includes dating app photos. Many people think a few selfies will do the trick, but there’s actually a bit of strategy behind what makes someone stop scrolling and say, “Ooooh, I’d love to get to know them.” That’s where I come in.

But before we dive into the tips—let’s set the tone. If you’re putting yourself out there on dating apps, remember this: you’re the one choosing. This isn’t about proving your worth or trying to appeal to everyone. It’s about showing up as the fullest, most authentic version of you so you can attract someone who is actually aligned with the kind of relationship you deserve. You’re not auditioning—you’re filtering. Your photos aren’t just about getting attention; they’re about drawing in the right kind of attention—from someone who is truly worthy of your time and energy.

Here are 10 expert-backed tips for choosing the right photos for your dating profile—plus why a custom session with a pro photographer might be the secret weapon to showing up with confidence and authenticity.

1. Have Enough Photos to Tell a Story (No, 2 or 3 Isn’t Enough!)

A single selfie and a vacation shot from 2019 won’t cut it. According to eHarmony, profiles with at least 6 well-chosen photos get significantly more engagement. Show some variety—different outfits, settings, and expressions. The key is looking approachable, real, and like someone worth getting to know.

A custom photography session here in San Antonio that gives you variety and range could look like this. We can shoot in multiple locations—we can start in my studio (for any work related headshots or a cleaner background so you’re the star), then head down to the Pearl District, Southtown,  park like Phil Hardberger (for my sporty guys and gals) or a cozy outdoor café—to get different looks, settings, and vibes in one experience. I like to have a conversation with each client to get to know how they’d like to come across.

2. Make You the Focal Point

Your dating profile isn’t the time for group shots or blurry phone snaps from the back row of a concert. You should be front and center in your photos—with your face clearly visible, in sharp focus, and lit well. The only exception for including someone in your photo is a pet! Photos with dogs and cats are shown to have higher response rates. And you likely already have dozens of photos with your pet in your camera roll.

3. Show Your Full Self

This doesn’t mean you need swimsuit shots or gym selfies. But including a few full-body photos gives a more complete picture and helps you come across as genuine and confident.

4. Ditch the Selfie Overload

One or two is fine, but a profile full of selfies can give off the wrong impression. Instead, aim to have your images tell a story—maybe you’re out for a walk, grabbing a coffee, laughing in a relaxed setting. That’s where a photographer who knows how to capture lifestyle images can make all the difference.

5. Dress to Impress (Just a Bit)

No need for black tie or cocktail dress, but leave the stained hoodie on the couch. Wear something you’d actually go on a date in. Choose colors and styles that flatter you, make you feel like a million bucks, and think about where you’ll be photographed—your outfit should feel natural in the setting. I guide my clients through the best outfits to wear with a style guide that includes color pallet ideas 4 types of styles. Some clients even choose to use my personal stylist if they are too busy or just don’t know where to start with what to wear.

6. Skip the Filters—Use Great Lighting Instead

Over-filtered or overly edited photos are a huge turn-off. Your matches want to connect with the real you, not a heavily altered version. The best way to glow? Natural, flattering lighting. That’s why in a custom session, I help you find the right light so you look your best—without the digital smoke and mirrors. Since San Antonio has lots of sun throughout the year, I know how to work with the best lighting to bring out your best features—no Instagram filters needed.

7. Smile! Seriously.

Ditch the duck lips. A warm, genuine smile and direct eye contact with the camera builds instant connection. This is your moment to radiate positive energy—and attract someone who’s ready to meet the real you. While this picture is being taken, try thinking of someone you genuinely like spending time with—then a more dynamic, relaxed smile will come more naturally. When using a professional to photograph you, choose someone you have a conversation with first to see if you gel. It should be someone who’s easy going, and can bring out your natural smile.

8. Update Your Photos Often

According to eHarmony, switching out your photos every couple of weeks can increase engagement. A fresh image can reset your momentum and show you’re active and intentional.

9. Include One Great Close-Up

People want to see your face—especially your eyes! A well-lit, close-up photo helps establish trust and connection. It might feel a little vulnerable (or down right scary), but that’s where a great photographer comes in.

The right photographer can guide you through every step, making sure you feel relaxed and confident, so those close-up shots don’t feel intimidating—they feel empowering.

10. Work With a Photographer Who Gets It

The right photographer will help you look your best, feel at ease, and show up authentically—whether you need updated headshots for work, personal branding, or a dating profile refresh.

That’s the beauty of the Melissa Raelynn Photography Custom Session Experience—we’re not locked into one type of photo. We can capture professional headshots in my Downtown San Antonio photo studio and lifestyle images that work for both LinkedIn and Bumble on location, all in one session. We’ll select wardrobe, scout the perfect location(s), and make sure you walk away with a full set of versatile, stunning pictures you are proud of.

Ready to Put Yourself Out There—Confidently?

Whether you’re a busy professional dipping your toes into dating or someone who’s ready for a full image overhaul, let’s create images that reflect your true self—and get the attention you deserve.

-M

Melissa is based in San Antonio, TX, works with clients from all over the city who want modern, impactful portraits and an experience that’s relaxed, empowering, and fun.

Contact here to book a call to chat and see if we’d be a good fit for your custom session and answer any questions.